A Lesson From Mary on Motherhood
I have never before given thought to Mary on Good Friday. Now that I am going into this day of celebration and reverence as a new mother, I can’t help but think about Mary at the foot of the cross watching her Son die for the sins of the world.
I was moved by Michelle Landsberg’s quote: “It is the very moment we give birth that we first begin to truly understand and fear death.”
I can only imagine what Mary must have been thinking. “Why Him, God? Why does my son have to be wounded for the transgressions of the world? Why does He have to be bruised for our iniquities when there are so many evil people who could be hanging there in His place? Why does it have to be my perfect baby boy You blessed me with?”
I’m sure Mary was in so much anguish watching her Son cry out in pain; after all, she was human. But I don’t think she regretted raising the Son of God. I don’t think she regretted saying “yes” to God’s plan about 33 years prior. I believe she looked back at her journey of motherhood and reminisced about what it was like to raise Jesus.
I believe she laughed and cringed when she remembered the day they left Jesus behind in the Temple when He was 12. I believe she smiled a proud grin when she thought about the day He was baptized by His cousin John. I believe she giggled as she closed her eyes and could clearly see a baby Jesus taking His first teetering steps across the dirt floor of their home.
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It’s so refreshing to remember that Mary was a mother. She went through everything we have gone through in raising our children. Fellow blogger, MaryLou Driedger says in her post Thinking About Mary on Good Friday, “No doubt her faith in God sustained her through the most difficult trials of motherhood.”
As a Christian mommy, you have the task of “training your child in the Way he (or she) should go.” We have no way of knowing in the early years of their lives what calling God has in store for them. Will your child be a doctor, a teacher, a worship leader? The possibilities are endless at the moment. But even though we don’t know what our children will be called to do for the Kingdom, we can still follow Mary’s example.
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When Jesus was eight days old, Mary and Joseph took Him to the Temple to be circumcised according to Jewish Law. A man named Simeon was moved by the Holy Spirit to pronounce a blessing over Jesus. He told — or rather reminded — Mary that Jesus was to be the salvation of both the Jews and Gentiles. He then went on to bless Mary and Joseph and tell Mary that raising Jesus and watching Him fulfill His calling would be like ‘a sword piercing through your soul.’ Wow!
Mary knew what she was getting into with being the mother of Jesus. She was reminded by people, through God, that it was going to be a tough road.
Raising a child up to be a follower of Jesus in this day and age — a time where the world tells us everyone has sex before marriage and that’s okay, “live your truth,” and eat Tide Pods — can seem like an impossible task. But I’m sure Mary felt that way every time she was reminded who her Son was.
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Earlier I quoted Proverbs 22:6, “Train up a child in the Way he (or she) should go.” I don’t know about you, but I tend to quote the first part of this verse and leave out the second part thinking it is just implied, but as parents, we should take a moment to analyze it.
“And when he is old he will not depart from it.”
Mary did her absolute best to raise Jesus as a follower of God, preparing Him for His calling. Just like Mary, our duty as a parent is to prepare our children as best we can for the Divine calling God has planned for them. And just like Mary, we have to have faith that God equipped us as mothers to raise our children in the way necessary for them to accomplish that calling.
“Near the cross of Jesus stood His mother…” (John 19:25).
Mary stood at the cross and watched her Son fulfill His calling. She knew, no matter how much she wanted to, that she could not fulfill it for Him. It’s a tough moment when your kids become independent. They’ve spent their whole lives needing you, and then one day, out of no where, they don’t need you anymore.
As sad as that day may be for you, I want you to look back and remember. Laugh about the time you frantically searched for your child in Walmart only to find them chilling happily in the toy aisle. Cry happy tears at the moment you saw them get baptized and publicly give their life to God. Giggle with overwhelming joy as you close your eyes and picture your baby taking their first steps.
And then hand them off to God with faith that He can take it from here. ‘You have fought the Good fight. You have finished the race. You have kept the faith” (2 Timothy 4:7). You have spent a lifetime raising this kid in the Way. Now, as hard as it may be, it is time for you to stand back and watch what God has in store for them.
You’ve got this, Mom!
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